tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8447925432958534732.post521851657997753413..comments2023-10-16T08:17:27.549-04:00Comments on Our Corner of the World: Theory, Reality, and Acceptable RiskJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07387762027113894185noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8447925432958534732.post-60444329435747442852010-06-28T21:19:04.780-04:002010-06-28T21:19:04.780-04:00Wow Joy, this is some deep stuff! I applaud you fo...Wow Joy, this is some deep stuff! I applaud you for being so open and honest, vulnerable and real. I have a flood of thoughts as I read this, only to conclude one thing one moment then question it the next! Just as you are saying in your blog. <br />Something I keep thinking about however, are the friends that I have who have biological special needs. They were never given an option, a choice, or time to prepare. Life was "normal" one minute and the next they faced a life-long journey ldarning how to love and care for their dear ones (all family members included as it afects everyone). Like you said, you never want to "pass over" a precious child because of something you feel you can't handle, when in fact, I believe God gives/allows us things in our lives ALL the time that we can't handle (don't think we can) so that we will need to depend on Him, so that we will realze the limitations of our own strengths. How many times have you heard testimonies of people who say, "If someone had told me this would me my life, I never wouldn've believed them..." or "given the choice, I never would have chose it, and now, would never change it". <br />Wow, you're in a tough position. My mind and emotions are tired just trying to think about this from the outside - I can't imagine what it's like for you and Geoffe wrestling with these things. <br />I know you are wise, and think things through thoroughly so I will be praying for you and for perfect wisdom and direction!!Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16423444646199507476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8447925432958534732.post-74729747758908652952010-06-20T17:49:36.811-04:002010-06-20T17:49:36.811-04:00Great post! I can totally relate to your thoughts...Great post! I can totally relate to your thoughts and feelings as I am currently in the process of adopting through CAS. Making decisions in the abstract is easier then when you are faced with the reality of a little person with a complex history! You don't want to minimize risk factors and behaviours but you also don't want those to completely define a child. I think you have to look at (a) can I parent this child in the here and now, every day? and (b) do I have (or will I be able to find) the resources (emotional, etc.) for the worst case scenario of what the risk factors may mean? All the best to you!Kristanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8447925432958534732.post-91216645050072854032010-06-16T20:20:04.142-04:002010-06-16T20:20:04.142-04:00You ask the tough questions.
There have been kids...You ask the tough questions.<br /><br />There have been kids in photolistings that catch my eye, then I read their profiles and see something that we decided we weren't comfortable with. I'll dismiss them. Then I'll see their picture again, and it will bother me. I'll read the profile again, and wonder whether or not we could handle their issue. I'll think about the fact that it's a real child, alive out there somewhere, who really needs a family. I'll wonder if maybe we should be that family. Sometimes, I'll decide that I should stick with the thoughtful decisions we made, give up on the idea of adopting that child, and pray that the child finds the right family. A couple times, I've made a phone call for more information. It hasn't worked out yet, but somehow all of this experience is preparing me for the real thing. I just hope we'll be ready for that reality when it happens.Erin @ Sky Blue Pink Roseshttp://burckeri.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8447925432958534732.post-5175158824060828672010-06-15T10:51:29.495-04:002010-06-15T10:51:29.495-04:00Thanks for these well written and candid thoughts ...Thanks for these well written and candid thoughts Joy. As in all questions of the heart, your situation holds with it potential for great danger and at the same time great opportunity & reward ... <br />Claim God's peace as you struggle through all these deep thoughts and questions.<br />with love, LaurelLaurelnoreply@blogger.com